I am in Atlanta for the WBENC conference, an opportunity for certified women business owners to meet with corporate buyers. On Tuesday, Bernice King, the youngest daughter of the late Martin Luther King, Jr., was our keynote luncheon speaker. King, a minister who holds a master of divinity degree and a doctorate of law degree from Emory University and an honorary doctorate of divinity degree from Wesley College, is internationally recognized as a powerful and motivating speaker. She started her oratorical journey at the age of 17 when she spoke at the United Nations.
During her keynote, in which she challenged women to continue to be the champion for change in the workplace and our larger society, she declared that we are not in the midst of the “Year of the Woman,” or even the “Decade of the Woman.” Rather, she champions that we are living in the “Century of the Woman.” And, she asserted, women who are in positions of leadership have to position ourselves to push through the change that women can bring.
She said that although women in business have made progress, the reality is that our progress cannot stop. She told us that her mother, Coretta Scott King, used to remind that freedom is not ever really won—you earn it and win it again in every generation. Now, she says, women in business are earning and winning their freedom.
Her mother, who was also a businesswoman who raised $8 billion to build the King Center, had naysayers and critics every step of the way. But she refused to pause, refused to engage her detractors. She allowed the power of her mission to transcend the power of her emotions.
Although King’s remarks were largely directed at women (she was, after all, speaking to a conference of women), anyone who is in business can apply them. In fact, they have implications that far exceed a business environment. Her words contain principles we can all live by, and in so doing, change ourselves and change society. The power is in each of us—and it is up to each of us to decide whether to exercise that power.
Here are the main principles Bernice King shared about her mother that we can learn from as business owners:
· Coretta Scott King knew “it” was about the next generation; it was about the people. We must restore ethics to the business world. We’ve become a “thing” society rather than a “people” society. Although “things” are fundamental to running a business, people must still be first.
· Her mother mentored, prepared, and role modeled others. Bernice King challenged us that we are all in a position to do the same. She also reminded us that as women business owners, others model us, so we must not compromise our ethics. Noting that her mother was not threatened for others to be benefactors, she asked us not to forget that the reason we are here is to nurture others as we grow in our own success. We must not horde relationships, and we must be open to ensuring access for others.
· Her mother mastered the ability to learn how to begin again. She tried not to harbor resentment toward those who opposed her or tried to manipulate her.
· Her mother could build multi-faceted coalitions. People don’t at first follow worthy causes; they follow worthy leaders whose authenticity they believe in. It is incumbent upon us to distance ourselves from toxic thoughts and toxic people because emotional toxicity hinders creativity, hinders the spirit of our companies and breeds distrust.
· Her mother kept first things first. Here, Bernice King was speaking about balancing work, profession and family. We can’t sacrifice our kids for the sake of doing business. She noted that her mother raised her kids at the same time she raised a nation. Women, Bernice King said, must be the ones to demand respect for family time.
· Her mother lived by a set of non-negotiables. We must decide what our non-negotiables are and choose our deals and projects based on them. Women business owners are in a position to have an incredible voice and to bring morality to business.
She closed with this lesson about the one law of the universe:
There were two kingdoms. In the first kingdom, a visitor saw a banquet feast—chicken and enchiladas and prawns and fruits and fried rice—foods of all kinds teaming from trays everywhere. But the people there were bound and unhappy. They did not know the one law of the universe.
In the second kingdom, the visitor witnessed the same banquet feast. But the people there were happy and there was forward progress. That’s because they understood the one law of the universe.
What is the one law of the universe?
You must use the utensils provided by the management.
You see, in both kingdoms, the utensils were 10 feet long. In the first kingdom, the people kept trying to feed themselves but they couldn’t manage the utensils on their own and so they were starving to death.
But in the second kingdom, the citizens reached across the table and fed each other.
It’s about reaching across the table. In business we are part of a community. We can reach across the table, we can reach across fear and across biases. We can reach across the table and continue to feed each other, and ultimately that is what will lead us to achieve the mandate and the mission that’s in our hearts.
I am proud to live and do business in Kansas City, in an entrepreneurial community that is shaped by the generosity of such programs as the Helzberg Entrepreneurial Mentoring Program, the MidAmerica Minority Business Development Council, the First Step Fund, and NAWBO’s Potential of Pink program for young women with business and political aspirations. These are only a few of the programs and individuals who reach across the table and help to feed the success of others in our community. Kudos and thanks to all of you. But, as Bernice King reminded us, “The progress cannot stop.”